Here comes the bride… and she’s your best friend.
That’s why you’re maid of honor and why you’re excited to make the day perfect, whether or not you have a plus-one at your side.
In reality, a wedding sans date isn’t as daunting as it seems, even when you’re in the spotlight as M.O.H. Forget what you’ve heard and read up on what it’s really like to be Maid of Honor when you’re single.
Spoiler alert: it’s still really fun.
You’ll Focus Wholeheartedly on the Job
Dealing with a date can be a bit distracting. Not only would you have to coordinate your wedding wear, lodging, transportation, etc., but you’d have to keep an eye on your date all night long to make sure he or she was having fun.
Therefore, being single isn’t so bad if you want to pour yourself into your role as M.O.H. You’ll probably find yourself extremely engaged and present throughout the planning process, filling your Pinterest board with inspiration for your BFF and helping her make choices up until she walks down the aisle. There’s so much to be done, from wrangling the rest of the bridesmaids to holding the groom’s ring, so you’ll want to be in the moment.
You’ll Enjoy the Big Day Just as Much
Just as you can focus on your duties without a date, you can truly let your hair down. Honestly, no maid of honor has ever looked back and wished she had to tend to a plus-one while she was on the dance floor, letting her hair down, requesting whatever song she wants to hear — and screaming it at the top of her lungs.
If you fear being left out of the social scene without a date, don’t: there are always other singles at these types of celebrations. Plus, you know your BFF is fun, so the party will be, too, no matter who is there.
You Won’t Field Any Questions
Every single girl’s fear is to answer question about her relationship status, especially at a wedding. However, you have to remember that the wedding is about the bride and her relationship, not yours. You might have to answer it once or twice, but all eyes will be on the lady in white. If it makes you feel better, you probably would be answering more questions if you had a new guy on your arm as your date… so enjoy an inquiry-free evening and sip your champagne in peace.
You’ll Give the Speech Without Feeling Shy
Writing a maid of honor speech takes a lot. You have to pull from your best memories with the bride and make them relevant to her big day: why is the groom right for her? When did you know they’d get married? How do you know it’s going to be forever? Your stories and your emotion will show just how much you love your friend and her union.
And that’s not including the actual part where you’re speaking.
Such an important speech comes with a lot of nerves, so you might be kind of relieved to be performing it in front of loved ones. Having a boyfriend, date or even a friendly plus-one looking on can make you feel even more nervous about taking the mic. Without distractions, though, you’re more likely to deliver your toast just as you’ve practiced and envisioned — no regrets afterward, either.
You’ll Realize It Doesn’t Matter
It might happen as you’re bunching flowers for bouquets, or flicking your eyeliner into the perfect cat-eye, or getting your best friend buttoned and corseted into her gown. It could even hit you while you’re shopping for dresses or clinking glasses at a boozy bachelorette party. No matter when it happens it will: you’ll realize that it doesn’t matter whether or not you have a date for your friend’s wedding.
Instead, you’ll focus your energy on making sure that the day is a celebration of her — someone you love — and the one she loves. And with that realization, you’ll be able to truly enjoy yourself, date or not. Your friend will remember your happy presence, too, and only reciprocate your dedication and love on your big day.
Written by: Kacey Mya Bradley
Kacey is a lifestyle blogger for “The Drifter Collective.” Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.
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