Single for the holidays? Let’s add an exclamation point to that instead: single for the holidays! Yay!
It sounds depressing to the long-attached, but there are plenty of upsides to being a single lady for the holidays. There’s less drama, with more time to focus on yourself and take care of your needs. Spend the holidays embracing your freedom:
Don’t Talk About Relationships
Easier said than done, right? It’s bound to happen. Someone asks you about why you haven’t found a man yet or goes into a well-meaning tirade about you deserving better. Great. Thanks. Yeah, heard it all.
You don’t have to react from a self-defensive place or endure that conversation. Simply state that you’re the focus of your life, and leave it at that. If the person refuses to get it, politely excuse yourself.
The same goes with friends and family. Make it a rule and let others know that you’re not talking about or looking for a relationship. Empower your single friends and family members, too, by talking about each other’s lives.
Focus on Family
The holidays are about taking time to be with your family. Go home early and help out around the house, especially if you’ve an older family member out of state you’ve not seen in forever.
Find out what’s going on with your parents and other relatives. Have a day where you and your cousins or siblings take a day trip with only each other.
Get Together with Friends Regularly
Many friendships suffer when someone in a relationship makes a partner their one and only. If you’re guilty of this, it’s time to make it up to friends.
Establish a friendship ritual where you meet up with friends for a craft day, lunch or a coffee. Show them you want to prioritize your friendship. Organize a Friendsgiving or winter dinner party as a new holiday tradition. Focus on each other, the good old times and future adventures together.
Be Your New Best Friend
It’s easy to be your own worst enemy, but it’s more difficult to self-advocate for your best interests. You know you must invest in self-love, but a better way to define that is to be your own new best friend. If you’re looking at yourself from outside perspective, you’d probably pull yourself up and advise this: “Do something for YOU!”
So, do it! It’s not just a significant other’s job to treat you well or do special things. Treat yourself to something nice for the holidays. Maybe you’ll choose to invest in a quality piece of jewelry to wear to brighten up your day, go out or dress for work success. Have a spa day, eat chocolate and get yourself the best wine.
Invest in Your Future, Now
Ultimately, you’re the single (no pun intended) most important person in your life. It’s not selfish. It’s the honest truth, that you need to care for yourself to care for others. So, invest in your future, and invest in your happiness now.
Slow down and look at your life. Are you living the life you deserve, or are you holding yourself back? What are you waiting for? Save money now for your retirement and for your life goals. Save for your dream house. Go to school. Develop a new passion.
Invest in experience, too. Live your life.
Whether you’re in your twenties or fifties, get out and about and have fun! Go dancing. Get a drink. Learn a new language. Do what’s fun for you, and connect with new people.
Getting to know new individuals in your life brings new opportunities. You will try something new you may have never considered.
You often lose the connection to yourself and the important people in your life when you’re fully immersed in a relationship. Being single is no curse. It’s an opportunity.
Freedom is scary and amazing. Embrace it. Take your singlehood during the holidays as a chance to connect closely with family and friends and to invest more in yourself.
You won’t regret it.
Written by: Kacey Mya Bradley
Kacey is a lifestyle blogger for “The Drifter Collective.” Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.
The Drifter Collective: An eclectic lifestyle blog that expresses various forms of style through the influence of culture and the world around us.