“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
To start, I’ve never been happier than I am in this very moment. I’ve come to realize that happiness is purely a choice. You are the only person with the power to influence how you feel. You can either take in positive vibes or negative ones, but it’s always a choice. You choose whether things affect you and how they do so. You can choose to let happiness in and when you do, it could quite possibly change your life the way that it changed mine.
My road to happiness wasn’t that easy. I was stubborn and stuck in a post break up rut thinking I needed to mourn and that this city simply wasn’t for me. But really, any city can be for you if you make it. If you surround yourself with great people, take opportunities and say yes to life, then the world is yours. Once you put your guard down and allow yourself to genuinely smile… It doesn’t just become easy, but it becomes natural to wake up blissfully.
So a little over 100 days ago I took my first step at owning my happiness. As silly as the fad seems to some, the list of things that I have accomplished in just the course of a few months would have been unthinkable to little ol’ me before this blog even began.
Just because something bad happens to you doesn’t mean that life is over. It doesn’t mean that you need to wallow and blame yourself. It means you need to learn, to move on, and to keep living the new life that was offered to you. Some of your most sordid mistakes may even lead to your greatest accomplishments. So take advantage of the change and the freedom that Fate decided you should have.
Because better things are coming… But it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be happy until they do.
The past 100 days have made me realize how many little things anyone has to be happy about. Even just my lunchtime stroll down Lincoln Road was something to be grateful for, or the glass of wine that tastes of perfection after a long day at work, and even just the pure joy of watching a movie with a friend. I’ve come to appreciate the daily things around me and by noting them on an everyday basis I always fell asleep with a smile on my face and woke up ready for more. Some highlights from my 100 happy days:
- Booking a trip to South Korea
- Stumbling into a secret Jeffrey Campbell after party
- Celebrating Cinco de Mayo in California
- Excitement of going on a first date
- High school friend’s bachelorette party and wedding
- Getting published on Elite Daily and Thought Catalog
- Getting contacted for informational interviews from baby Gators
- 23rd birthday weekend in Key West
- Getting “lost” in Barnes & Noble
- Ernest Hemingway’s house and his cats
- My company winning Silver at Cannes Lions
- College roommate reunion for the 4th of July
- Going on a salsa dancing date
- Nailing a forearm stand after 3 months of practice
- VIP at a Miami swim week fashion show
- Getting a promotion at work
But what was my last note on my 100th day of happiness you may ask? Simply, “I’m happy.” It’s as basic as going after every day with my head held high knowing that I am the designer of my destiny. Going after every day dressing up for myself, buying myself flowers, wearing my bright lipstick and walking with the confidence I suddenly found in my back pocket.
Does this mean that I will forever be in a constant state of joy? No. Life still happens. Sh*t still happens. But happy people know how to deal with it and how to move on. I think you need to know sheer pain before understanding true happiness. It’s a matter of pulling yourself together when life tests you and realizing the mass amount of good over the bad.
So, I’m happy because I let myself be happy. And it’s the most gratifying way to live. My 100 happy days taught me how to take advantage of life. It reminded me of what type of person I am. And if you haven’t given it a go yet, get right on that. Because nothing can get this girl down now for long, and that’s the way I like it.