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Sonya Matejko

    Single Strides

    Goodbye, Single Strides

    July 25, 2017
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    You might be wondering where I’ve been, how New York is, and why I disappeared for almost six months. I’m here to say goodbye, but I’ll try to answer the above before I do.

    To start, I have to go backward. Back in 2014, I started this blog as a place to store my feelings, take out my emotions, and hopefully help some other people along the way. I endured plenty of “single strides” related jokes, but I always laughed them off with grace. I’ll tell you, it’s not easy being vulnerable.

    It’s certainly not easy to spill your heart and then share it with friends and strangers. In some ways, I know sharing my weaknesses made me stronger. It was the way that I grew confidence in myself, found my voice, learned from rejection, and understood how to persist after criticism.

    When I look back now, I’m proud of what this site became. Sure, sometimes the posts were a little aggressive, overly emotional, or probably written after drinking, but they were me. And most importantly, they were honest. So I know that even when I look back later in life, I’ll attribute this blog to helping me become who I am today.

    All of that aside, I also got to experience what it’s like to make a difference in people’s lives. Over the years, I’ve enjoyed getting comments and emails from people all over the world asking for advice and telling me how an article of mine has inspired them.  Even old friends or familiar faces would reach out to thank me for writing a particular article.

    Alas, just like with heartbreak, everyone has to move on eventually. New York City has taught me a lot about myself, pushed my limits, and opened up my eyes to what else is out there. I know that this blog was just the beginning and that it would now pigeon-hole me into a specific set of topics.

    Plus, the world of writing online is different now. Sites I used to be proud to write for are less respected, too political, and some would say the personal essay is dead altogether. That doesn’t mean I’ll stop writing, but it does mean I’ll be changing my style and be more selective about where and what I write about.

    So what am I going to be up to moving forward?

    I’ll be adding all of my favorite articles to my Medium profile (and maybe even writing some new content there), I’ll be more active on Facebook, writing headlines for 20some, aaaaaaand I’ll be working on a series of short stories about first dates/falling in love in New York City with the hopes of one day publishing the lot. If you know any publishers, connect me, please 😉

    Now, I know what you’re thinking, am I saying goodbye to this blog because I’m not single anymore? That’s not the case (in fact, it’s kinda complicated). But like I’ve always told people, this blog was never about being single. This blog was about expressing yourself, finding a way to move on, seeing the world, and not being ashamed about what’s in your heart.

    Lastly, I wanted to thank everyone who has ever read an article, commented on an article, shared an article, or even pretended to not read an article but secretly did. Without all of you, I wouldn’t have had the guts to turn this into what it became – a home for my heart and for many others. I appreciate each and everyone of you from the bottom of my full heart.

    You’ll notice the picture on this post is different than all the others on the site. That’s because this one is me facing you (with my fab roommate), facing the world, and moving forward. A little more Charlotte than Carrie Bradshaw, I am a stronger and wiser person than the girl who started this blog years ago. That girl is ready to take on the world in a new way, and I really hope you’ll still follow her strides.

    Last – but not least – no matter what situation you find yourself in or what feelings you find yourself engulfed in – never give up on love. Because love is always worth fighting for.

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